积极是成功的燃料. Positive thinking is the habit of focusing on the good in every situation, even when things go awry. How many times have we had our mood ruined by the most random events, like getting one’s car stolen the day before you are set to go on vacation, 或者你在家庭度假时弄伤了自己, or the business deal you were sure would come through goes cold. Any one of these events can send one into a tailspin, and any reasonable person would understand. However, to all these unexpected events, the right response is to remain calm and positive. No matter how dire or stressful a situation may be, if you are alive…you can be grateful for something – POSITIVITY. 说起来容易做起来难? 是的，当然. 但这是成功的必要条件.
A positive 心态 is the 免费的 hack you can tap into to improve your odds of 成功 and live the life you have been waiting for. If you can tell yourself ahead of time that no matter what happens, you will choose to see the good or the opportunity, then what other choice do you have but to buckle down and find solutions to your issues? When you decide the only option is to remain positive, 别再浪费时间自我鞭笞了, 自怜的, 或慰抚. You simply put on your positivity armor and go about the practice of finding and implementing solutions to your problems as they come up. 因为让我们面对现实吧, the only thing that matters are your ACTIONS …not how bad you feel about your problems.
当然, like many concepts that imply behavioral change, it is difficult for us to adopt the notion that simply adopting a positive 心态 can have tremendous impact on your life. 因为:
- 消极的感觉很好: Feeling bad for oneself feels good…even if only for a short period of time. 当我们难过的时候, it is tempting to opt for whatever form of good feeling we can access, 越快越好, 不管它有多大的破坏性. This is our brain’s shorthand for making us feel better.
- 我们相信正义和公平; We have drawn a social contract with the universe that if we are good and mean well, 那么坏事就不应该发生在我们身上. 然而，这不是生活的现实. Sometimes no matter how good we are and how hard we work, 事情可能还是不会对你有利. Difficult to embrace but this is just a FACT of life that cannot be contested…like gravity and must be embraced.
- We worry about the future to increase the odds in our favor: Worrying about the future cannot possibly contribute to increasing the outcome of some future event in our favor. 唯一能起作用的是我们的行动. For example, it’s useless to worry about failing an upcoming exam. The only way to potentially impact the outcome of how well I do on an exam is studying for the exam.
Negativity is low-grade dark energy and has little to no rewards. 是的, you can get temporary relief from being negative and groveling in your feelings, but nothing can be achieved to improve the situation through that 心态. 所以，从本质上讲，它是无用的. 另一方面，积极的态度, 不出意外的话, can simply make you feel better…for a much longer period than a negative attitude will. Several other benefits can be derived from having a positive attitude:
- 幸福积极的态度能带来幸福. 幸福 does not depend on external reasons. 它来自你的内心. 这取决于你的观点. 你的态度就越积极, 你对自己的行为越满意, 你对自己越快乐.
- 更好的健康: People who think positively are generally more energetic and healthier than those who think negatively. 这是一个科学事实. 你的性格会影响你的整体健康
- 动机: A positive attitude will increase your 成功 by giving you the motivation to tackle your problems. It will make you believe you are getting closer to what you want. It also motivates you to reach goals that exceed your expectations.
- 创造力: Let us face it, the more creative you are the better you are at solving problems. However, it difficult for creativity to exist in the same space as negativity. 创造力 taps into the art of endless possibilities, while negativity taps into a doom and gloom space. Hard to come up with solutions when you are consumed by thoughts of doom and gloom.
- 扩大网络: Positive thinking impacts on interpersonal relationships. People like optimistic people and tend to want to stay away from negative ones. 我们都有挣扎, so people generally are looking to engage with others that can help them solve their problems, 不要加进去. In addition, negativity is dark energy and drags people down. 没人需要这个.
As we wind down on 2020 and start to put plans in place for 2021, 记住一个简单的, 免费的, and endless resource you can tap into to power your efforts and thereby fuel your 成功 in the new year…POSITIVY. 让自己沐浴其中!
